I know it has been a few months since my last post, but as any parent of teenagers knows, busy, busy, busy. Run here, go there, we are sleeping at but going to, cuz!
This is always followed with the lengthy venting discussions ( Drama) when we are tired or busy and NOTHING when we are available and want to listen.
This brings me to the topic of today’s discussion. The task of teaching you’re teen to drive. It is a Rite of passage but not a right. Those of you familiar with my philosophy around privilege and responsibility know I feel strongly that you must know your child and their level of responsibility before engaging in this endeavor. Driving is serious business and now more than ever we must discuss the dangers of the roads in current times. The much feared and dreaded hand held techno devices that were not part of my or previous generations. This is as simple as NO TEXTING or PHONE while driving. Yet we see teens and adults on a daily basis forget or not caring and just in their own world texting and driving away.
You do not need my blog to tell you that this is a recipe for a deadly accident. My first time out with my own daughter she was in tune with my feelings on this issue and being a fan of texting herself, knew that she needed to show me shutting the phone and putting it in a compartment away from her focus of driving. I was all faklempt, the repetitive coaching and discussions had been heard. Once we tackle safety we can move on to realistic expectations. Some young folks see all the nice cars that are out today and want that one! The cool, fast …….
This brings us to my title “you want to drive what?” Yea, you are not driving the new Audi. Being a very big car enthusiast I have earned the right by middle age thru hard work, to drive a nice car. Our children need to have safe but reasonable cars given that they are new to driving and do not have lots of money of their own. Yes she wanted the old BMW or the string of other cars we have looked thru but ultimately young adults and parents must talk about what the family can afford, reviewing all the ancillary expenses that teens may not be fully aware of.
While I continue this journey of teaching my own daughter to drive, I welcome others input to the discussion, as none of us is as smart as all of us.